Social justice work can be hard. Even if you connect with your clientele in deep ways, there may be parts of you that are privileged. Realizing gaps in privilege can be really hard and raises a lot of questions about a person’s role in the helping professions. Here are a few ways to deal with those feelings—for the sake of your head, heart and the people you’re helping.

1. Your work should make you uncomfortable at times. This is normal and a sign that you are aware of your privilege and uncomfortable with the social disparities of the world. Sit with it.

2. Let your clients be the experts in their lives or whatever you are there to “help” them with. Instruction doesn’t lead to behavior change. Things start to change when a person feels respected and worthy.

3. Verbally acknowledge the differences between you and your clients. Name the obvious differences in your identities if it seems to be coming up as an issue in your work. Tell them that you’re aware that you’re younger or older than them, that you’re of a different gender identity or nationality. Then genuinely ask if they believe there is still a possibility for you to work together. They may say no and that’s okay. They may say yes because no one shares every experience they’ve had, and by simply being a nonjudgmental human you're providing room for growth.

How do you deal with privilege in your work? Share with us in the comments below.